Charlotte Byndas

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Personal Break Through: I am a what?

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[tweetmeme source=”cbyndas” only_single=false]Leafing through articles in Inc magazine I ran across the following item

Explain the term happy loser.

Salespeople sometimes say to me, “I don’t like that you call me a loser.” But that’s not what I mean. Happy losers are people who see rejection as a challenge. If 95 percent of the time you are rejected, you have to ask yourself, “Why did I choose this kind of life?” The happy loser likes it because 5 percent of the time, he wins. And all those times he loses, he sees as getting to the win.

Wow, I have never felt so good about being a loser. 🙂 Yes, I am exactly like the people referenced in this article, so are most of my friends who are successful business owners, we have the ability to focus in on the 5% and ignore the rest; it is a beautiful way to be.  Just think how powerful it could be if we all looked at failure not as the end of the process but just one a step forward.   How many times do you meet up with someone and the majority of the conversation revolves around what has not worked for them rather than what is working? Negative focus steals life right out from under way too many people.

So if you are feeling a bit like a “loser” and things are not quite going your way, don’t fret; you could be a lot closer to success than you know.  Embrace the moments when things don’t quite work out, assess them, determine what you can learn from them, and then move on, fail forward! Don’t worry if this is a hard thing for you; if you are “normal” you have been programmed since the age of six to avoid failure like the plague.  So it will take a little work on your part to embrace the whole concept.  If you happen to be like me, a bit odd, wear the title proudly…”Happy Loser” by birth.

If you need further inspiration take the afternoon off and go to a baseball game, there is no better example in my view of a “Happy Loser” than the professional baseball player.   They actually go to the plate over and over with the odds against them, but believing that they are one swing away from a home run!

Author: Charlotte Byndas

Charlotte A. Byndas started her career in the search industry in 1993 just as the industry was embracing the technology revolution that would change the very DNA of executive recruiting. In 1994 she lead efforts to automate one of the most successful franchise offices of Management Recruiters International, building their first contact management system and website. Over the next few years she successfully launched and managed several new recruiting companies servicing the IT, manufacturing, healthcare, IT, accounting, insurance, engineering, sales, and non-profit industries. In 2002 she turned her efforts toward helping individuals launch and build independently owned recruiting companies helping to close over $30 million system wide, earning her countless testimonials labeling her “recruiting ninja” and “recruiting “guru”. Launching Search Entrepreneurs Inc, and TheITRecruiters she helped develop the first anti-franchise model in the recruiting industry as well as an innovative "candidate first" approach to IT recruiting.

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