Charlotte Byndas

Inspiring Success in Many

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Less rules more character…key to growth?

Nathan Mellor has some advice for corporate America and how they treat their employees: less rules, more character. In this Talk, Nathan looks at companies whose people show up to work and know that their work is a part of who they are.

5:53 Discussion on continual goals: A different way of doing things
7:22 Your job should not define you, but the way you do your job reveals who you are.
7:42 Grandfathers lesson on building a legacy
9:16 Discussion on terminal goals
10:02 Story from Uganda, planning on doing good
10:48 Integrating character into the hiring and promotion process
10:58 People hire for competence and fire for character
11:51 This is what character is and lets catch people doing it right
12:06 36.1 percent of people leave their jobs for lack of appreciation
14:40 Actions reveal beliefs if you desire to change actions you must change beliefs

Nathan Mellor is the president of Strata Leadership, LLC (Strata) based in Oklahoma City. Resources and programs offered through Strata are used in all 50 States and in over 25 Countries. Strata serves an audience of over 400,000 individuals each month. Nathan holds the B.A. and the M.S.E. degrees from Harding University. He earned the M.D.R degree from the Pepperdine University School of Law and the Ed.D. in Organizational Leadership from Pepperdine University.Nathan and his wife Christie were married in 1997 and have two daughters. You can read articles from Dr. Mellor each month in Character First the Magazine. He serves on the Board of Directors of Wishing Well and the 111 Project.

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Work involves boredom

Working Fun Into the Day

Scary Thought.

You will spend more of your adult life at the office than anywhere else. This fact popped into my mind as I was cleaning out some old files and came across a 2008 WSJ article on David Foster Wallace.

David Foster Wallace on Life and Work
Adapted from a commencement speech given by David Foster Wallace to the 2005 graduating class at Kenyon College. Mr. Wallace, 46, died last Friday.

In this too long for my taste article, Wallace makes a great observation and then a great point. His observation:

“At some point work involves boredom, routine and petty frustration”

Yes, no matter your job or the company you work for some of your days will be blah. (Not when you should call a recruiter BTW) The challenge is in keeping in touch with the things in your life that balance it out so that these “blah” days don’t cramp your ability to perform at a high level.

I think this is what attracts so many to social media during the work day. Facebook, Google + , Twitter, etcetera are filled with the stories of what matters. Babies, weddings, funerals, pets, vacations, new…cars, boats, rings, girl/boy friends, if it is fun and makes someone happy you are sure to find it posted!

Top performers surround themselves with little reminders of what motivates, excites, inspires them outside of work. It is these little reminders that keep us sane. It may be a photo, a trinket from a trip, framed tickets from the big game, or a trophy or award, but the reminder of who you are past your job needs to be with you at all times.

Wallace last point was a great one.

“It is unimaginably hard to do this, to stay conscious and alive, day in and day out”

Is there room on your desk for what makes you happy? Yes? Good job! No? Clean out that in box and make some room, it will be good for you!

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The Age of Melancholy?

Picture 954Have you ever realized that when you reach your birthday, lets say 50, that you have actually started your 51st year. Yep, I can thank my dad for that sobering realization. When you hit your birthday you are celebrating the anniversary of that year.


Don’t you think this would make a great T-Shirt? So why if we all share in this human experience are we not better at the aging process? So many are so sad over the fact that life is changing and will never be what it once was. Is a melancholy tone the tone we want to create for our children, our children’s children. I think not. With the aging Baby Boomers population we are running this risk.

A little skill development would come in handy here. What skill you ask? Let’s start with the ability to learn new things. Many people have lost this ability. When this happens the world starts to close in around them. If this is you, stop now and pick something new to learn. It could be anything just needs to be new. If your life “practice” is continually learning new things there is always something to look forward toward. And if what you have falls apart you will be well equipped emotionally to move on to the next great thing, albeit a new job, house, dog, area, or relationship.

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Shirt and Shoes Required

NO Shirt Shoes Service

Image by Leo Reynolds via Flickr

This is the gentle reminder hanging at the door of my favorite beach side restaurant.

Outside, extreme casual works

Inside it doesn’t.

The same rules apply when communicating online.

Wikipedia on Textese:

SMS language or textese (also known as txt-speak, txtese, chatspeak, txt, txtspk, txtk, txto, texting language, txt lingo, SMSish, or txt talk) is a term for the abbreviations and slang most commonly used due to the necessary brevity of mobile phone text messaging, in particular the widespread SMS (short message service) communication protocol.


Textese is the super cool you at the beach.  No shirt, no shoes, no problem you can do what you want.

Sending an e-mail, creating a resume, writing a blog post, or making online comments is the ready to paint the town looking sharp you.  Textese is not good for these formats.

k, good, tyl, LOL